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He was dating someone else when we met it all happened

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First of all, let me tell you that there is no way to resolve this situation without someone getting hurt. Either the person you're already dating is going to be hurt because you will probably either leave him or her or try for a while to date your current sweetie and the person you're falling for.

Or the "someone else" you've fallen for is going to be hurt because either you choose him or her - and leave a huge deposit of doubt: And you're probably going to feel pretty bruised by the time this has all settled down. It's no fun to hurt other peoples' feelings, especially people you care about - and there's always the chance they both decide to have nothing further to do with you.

He was dating someone else when we met it all happened course, the easy thing to do is not get into this situation in the first place. You're dating, that usually means you're "taken. Easy, yes, but not always realistic. Now you need to be honest. If you've fallen for this new person deep enough that you're planning to leave your sweetie, and if the new person feels the same way about you, you do your current boyfriend or girlfriend no favors by continuing the relationship.

End it now and give your soon-to-be ex the gift of dignity: Being lied to for months before being left for someone else is cruel and unnecessary. How would you like it if someone did that for you? However, if the feelings are one-sided, and you're the only one having them, you need to sit down and be honest with yourself. What is lacking in your current relationship that you've fallen for this other person?

What needs, real or imagined, do you think this new interest can fill for you that your current sweetie can't? And are you absolutely, positively sure your boyfriend or girlfriend can't fill those needs?

Sometimes people project "the perfect lover" onto someone else because they've got a notion in their head that this other person will meet every single need - it's probably why people tend to get major crushes on movie and television stars. Well, let me tell you, even movie stars have bad days and get cranky and pouty and lose their temper because the garbage hasn't been taken out in a few days.

And so does this new person you've fallen for. And what are you going to do if this "someone else" can't meet your needs either? Fall for someone else while you're still dating him or her?

Pretty soon word's going to get around, and no one is going to want to date you - because they've heard you'll leave them high and dry for greener pastures.

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Can't say I blame them, really. Light crushes on total strangers or good friends are okay. After all, you're dating, but you're not dead!

But when the feelings start to run deeper - even if it's only on your part - the best thing you can do for everyone concerned is to sit down and try to figure out why.

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I said no he asked do you like coffee I said I do he says ok and left came back with a huge coffe for me and I was shocked.

He smiled I blushed blah whatever. Then asked for my number and I gave it to him. He has two kids by two different women and I have none.

He kept saying he wanted to be friends.

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Even though he kept saying he wanted to be only friends with me. But then he admitted he loved me and I felt amazing because I have felt the same but I kept trying to bottle up my feelings because although I wanted him to be my man!