Here's some very important dating advice you need to hear. What's this earth shattering, paradigm shifting information I need to lay upon you?
Don't waste your time dating a man over 40 who's never been married and had kids.
There, I said it. Harsh but completely true.
So why do I make this huge ass generalization? If you've never had kids, you still think the world revolves around you. To be a parent means to realize that what you want now means nothing at all. If you've never had kids, you don't understand that. If you are a single male, you believe that you are number one.
Parenting gives you perspective. Spilling your latte Dating for divorced men over 40 upset you that much. Being a parent teaches you that lots of crappy little stuff happens but as long as everyone gets home in one piece, it's a "Dating for divorced men over 40" day.
Being a parent, you're used to the quick change of plans. Anything can happen at anytime and you know that. Someone vomits in their backpack on the way to school and suddenly you are working from home that day. Had a few dates with a man who was 45, never married, no kids. His entire refrigerator was categorized by shelves with its own Excel spreadsheet.
Put the coconut water on the top shelf by mistake and thought he was going to collapse in his granite perfection of a kitchen in a full on seizure. Can you say Over Freak Show? Yes, we've been married, and our marriages failed, but at least we had the courage to say "I do. Maybe we failed miserably, but we took the walk down the aisle, threw the wedding bouquet and put ourselves in debt to have a kick ass party.
At least we tried. Men who've made it to 40 and can't commit? Don't believe their professions that they just haven't found "someone.
Or just because they are big fat selfish douche bags. I dated one man who whined about how women didn't understand him, that everyone he cared for left him. Yes, yes, they did.
All the women with any intelligence and self worth did leave when they figured out he was a narcissistic ass wipe with the emotional maturity of a 5-year-old. Leave these men to embarrass themselves and date cocktail waitresses who are Women so young and naive that they can't discern their emotional disabilities.
Want a real shot at happiness? Find yourself a man who's been married before. Find a man who's had kids.