The New York Times has declared that the social media giant has transcended its status as a mere photo sharing app and now functions as an unofficial dating platform as well.
Take it from Jessica, a year-old New Yorker, whose current beau approached her at the restaurant where she works, asked for her Instagram handle and then retreated to the bathroom where he slid into her DMs, in order to tell her she looked like a famous person. Why this sultry man opted to deliver his opener via DM instead of in person is a question we may never resolve.
But his choice illustrates how Instagram works as a bridge between dating apps and in-person meetings, a sort of virtual safety net that pads the abrasive possibility of hitting on someone and getting rejected.
Your interest and attraction is actually based on something going into the date, so it all feels more deliberate. We followed each other on Insta after, but when he started watching my stories, he stopped responding to my texts. I warned him I was extra when we met!
Like Jessica, Mike, a year-old fitness influencer, has deleted his dating apps because he prefers getting dates on Instagram. While this can and does happen, the odds of a DM resulting in more than just a shout into the void are far higher when you at least vaguely know your DM-ee.
Whether it be a former kind-of-flame, a friend of a friend or that guy with the hella-good hair from art history class you shared a few deep-cut Botero jokes with five years ago, Instagram keeps anyone who has intrigued you on your radar, and vice versa. Take a gander at your account. If you look at all capable of homicide, or if your main picture is a blurry close up of a bloodshot eyeball, change it.
Next, embrace the long game and start building Insta-rapport with your person Dating app based on looks for instagram persons of interest. Avoid opening with a comment on physical appearance.
In short, treat your person of interest like a person of interest. Ironically, Instagram dating is often about more than just looks. It requires that we put in just a little more effort, that we take just a little bit more of a risk and give just a little bit more of a fuck.
But dream with me, people: Cora Boyd is a matchmaker, dating coach, and writer. Follow her antics on Instagram. A Matchmaker's Guide to Instagram Dating. You may not believe me, but here's the truth: Instagram is the new Tinder.
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