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How to pick up a girl over text

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6. Build sexual tension

And even fewer have mastered the art of flirting over text. With that in mind, here are 6 tips to help you ensure maximum texting success when flirting with a girl. But a text message is not that place. You see, most of us lead such hectic lives with a million different worries running through our head, that the last thing we want to do is have to put a lot of time and effort into replying to a text message.

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These texts will often range from the boring to the down-right coma inducing. So set yourself apart from the throng. In fact, rather than add value to your interaction, they just leech energy from it. So from now on, every time you text a girlask yourself what value your text brings to her day.

So you met a girl at your local bookshop, hit it off and exchanged numbers.

However, letting her know this is not. Remember, being non-needy and a little bit scarce is attractive.

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And you can convey this over text. I remember reading somewhere that when it comes to flirting with girls, everything that was fun in kindergarten, becomes fun again.

And this is doubly true when it comes to flirting over text. You see, there are two key ingredients to any successful seduction: To spark attraction you need to create tension. And one of the best ways to create this tension over text is through a bit of playful teasing.

Tease her mercilessly, but keep it light. Another great way to build attraction and tension over text is by asking a girl flirty questions. Timing, however, is everything, and you should ask a girl these types of flirtatious questions at certain escalation points in your interaction. Another thing that a lot of men get wrong is that they think that they should wait until much later to build sexual tension with a girl.

So when should you introduce an element of sexual tension to your conversation? The key here is to do it in a playful and fun way. A great way to start adding an element of sexual tension to your texts is by deliberately misinterpreting what a girl says.

But sooner or later, a girl gets bored with this. So always remember to keep things moving forward. From text to phone conversation, from phone conversation to a date, from a date to sex, etc. You get the picture. Now I could write an entire separate article on the art of online flirting, but let me just give you a few useful tips here. When it comes to flirting with a girl online, one of the most important things to have in your arsenal is a great profile.

Be it on Facebook, a dating site or on Tinder, having a profile that builds curiosity and is congruent with who you are in real life is important. A girl who takes the time to message you after seeing your profile is obviously interested in you, or at least mildly curious.

So proceed to flirt with her as you would over text. Just keep in mind that women tend to get bored easily online so always try to escalate and keep things moving forward. Follow up and continue to build attraction over the phone, and try to set up a real life meet as soon as you can.

Patrick is a Berlin-based dating advisor, motivational speaker, a huge fitness and vegan diet enthusiast and the main editor at Wingman Magazine, specialised in men's health.

His ultimate goal is to share with men around the world his passion for self-development and to help them to become the greatest version of themselves.

He believes a healthy body and successful social interactions are two main keys to happiness. Look, bro using pickup lines via text are the stupidest thing you can do while texting.

4. Tease her

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